Here comes the bride, all dressed in white... (or whatever you're wearing). This is suppose to be the happiest time of your life; why are you feeling the blues?
How do you keep your nerves from getting frayed when your entire life is changing? The pre-wedding stress is all that comes before the wedding date. I tell my brides that it's natural to be stressed before the wedding; a wedding is 20 to 30 years of hopes and dreams all in a six-hour time frame. The wedding day represents unlimited possibilities and new beginnings; there's so much stress because the evening has got to be right....I get it!
Note that in additional to pre-wedding stress, there is also post-wedding stress. The couple often feels sad, and they don't mention it because they're embarrassed to think something is wrong after the wedding. The planning stages are intense, the wedding is a blur, the honeymoon is certainly over and it's back to life as you know it. It is important for couples to anticipate this, expect it and welcome the post-wedding blues as part of the package.
As far as pre-marital stress there are small occurrences like misspelled names, flowers not exactly as ordered, a few people that failed to respond to the RSVP and unhappy bridesmaids. These things will happen and they need to be factored into the wedding plans.
Know this.... Marriage is a risk. If things feel wrong, don't ignore them. You have to open up and talk. Sure, your planner will work out as many of the kinks as possible so trust that her professionalism will see you through some of the tough times.
If you and your mate are experiencing more difficult issues, Chantelle Bittings is a licensed and professional therapist that can assist you and your future husband in figuring things out during pre-maritial counseling.
~Until Next Time
Sharon Patrice Simply Perfect Peace Events, Inc. and Designs by Shay, the Blog "My Journey, My Way, My LIFESTYLE ~ Celebrating Love, Laughter and Everything in Between..." You or your brand interested in a review? Getting married or having a social event and need assistance? Email Me For All Your Event Planning Needs.