Monday, May 20, 2013

Monday Motivation: "After the Love is Gone"

Do we ever truly stop loving our first love? Have you been in a relationship and then when it suddenly ended you couldn't imagine yourself ever loving again?  This past weekend I spent some time with a dear friend and we discussed this very topic.  Often being married it's difficult to be heard when it comes to surviving "the love I lost" but although I am married NOW, I wasn't always.
I am a woman who has lived, loved, lost and recovered - SimplyShay

Breaking up is never easy to do no matter which side of the fence you're on.  If you're the one ending the relationship (unless it's just BAD), you don't want to be seen as a jerk or someone with no regard for the feelings of others so you may struggle with how to end it.  In your struggle you have to be careful not to string someone along with the hopes of finding the right words.  KNOW THIS:  There are NO "right" words.

If you're the one being left I probably don't have to go into how broken that can make you feel.  The level of hurt that comes along with that is sometimes close to unbearable.  You wonder where you went wrong, what you could have done to prevent it, what if this, what if that....  If IF was a fifth, we'd all be drunk.

I'm finding that in speaking with people the best way to "get over it" is to be OK with not getting over it.  Don't give in to becoming bitter and angry but know that having the ability to love is a good thing.  The cliché "it's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all" is very true.  Never give up on love; be honest about your feelings and know they are valid.  We all have made some mistakes; life is about learning lessons and growing - no one said those lessons would be easy.  A good friend shared something with me that I hold dear to my heart - "Everything has Purpose".

TRUE STORY:  A lady was asked to join a singles club and her response was clearly not the response expected.  She simply stated, "I'm Single?"  Being comfortable in her own skin and not wallowing in the what if's is how she lives her life.

"There was a boy and a girl who loved each other dearly yet too "stuck" in past hurts to admit it.  They dated for years hiding true feelings and today, although they love each other - they are the only two that know it"  That's the true shame of love lost...

If you're struggling with this topic, Chantelle Bittings offers therapy for individuals, couples and families.  Visit her on Facebook at Chantelle Bittings, LCPC or her website

" Live Life With No Regrets"
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