Wedding Motivational Monday: Weathering the Storm!!

I do a lot of talking about marriage and relationships.  Not because I'm an "expert" but I know that they require work.  I also know that the work can pay off if both people are willing to............. WORK!

People that know me know I have a fear of large bodies of water.  Sometimes when I'm overwhelmed with work and life I'll dream that I'm driving somewhere and the road just suddenly ends with me going into ... guess what? A large body of water!!!  Now I now know what that dream means for me (get some rest) but have you thought about this in terms of your relationship?

Sometimes we're just overwhelmed with life, but how do you know when you're driving down that winding relationship road to what appears to be a large body of nothing?  Here are a few signs to keep in mind and in sight.

No Cookies!!! Intimacy is what keeps the marriage alive folks.  When you rarely or no longer come together for those "moments", the door is left open for other problems.  To be "one" you've got to keep the pot boiling!

Roomates!  What am I saying? You have no words for each other!  You simple share a home and expenses and that's it.   Not even a simple hello/goodbye.  More than friends or casual acquaintances, you must be BEST friends.  You'll need to laugh, have pillow talk.  You shouldn't have to walk on pins and needles around your spouse.

Respect! Or lack there of.  When you no longer care what the other person feels or thinks, you’re going down a very dangerous road.  Marriages seem to be healthier when the wife lets the husband lead, be the head of the house, and when the husband cares for his wife more than he cares for himself.

Marriage is W.O.R.K.. pull up your boots and weather the storm!

Sharon Patrice Simply Perfect Peace Events, Inc. You or your brand want coverage at an upcoming event? Getting married or having a social event and need assistance? Email Me For All Your Event Planning Needs.

Wedding Motivational Monday: Expectations!

I am no therapist or counselor but I love sharing my thoughts on relationships.  A group of us use to get together on occasion and have these pow wow's covering all types of topics.  It was always interesting to hear the different views on what we want vs what we need.  The general consensus was  real relationships aren’t anything like what you see in the movies full of non-stop romance, candlelight dinners and whirlwind trips to exotic locations.

Real relationships take effort, time and commitment. Great relationships happen because not only do two people love each other very much, they also value one another and are willing to make an investment of time into the relationship – day after day......after day!

A good way to look at this is to consider not getting too excited with the very high “highs” or too concerned with the very low “lows.” By reframing these extremes, you will be left with the right measure of balance and the right set of expectations to build a quality and sustainable relationship for many years to come.

Keep working - keep building - keep loving!
*disclaimer:... nope, I didn't tell you to leave*

Sharon Patrice Simply Perfect Peace Events, Inc. You or your brand want coverage at an upcoming event? Getting married or having a social event and need assistance? Email Me For All Your Event Planning Needs.

Wedding Motivational Monday: Be Thoughtful!

Often we'll stop by a stranger and give them a few dollars, smile and share kind words.  Then we'll get home and snarl.. "what the what?"  Come on people, it doesn't take much.  Think of small, specific ways to make your relationship better whether it's getting her oil changed or telling him you're proud of what he does for the family.  Be kind and be considerate!

You should make an effort every day to deposit at least one act of thoughtfulness into your relationship’s bank account. Your goal, however, should not be to make a huge withdrawal at the end of the week. Your only goal should be to keep giving the things your mate wants – either his or her expressed and unexpressed wants. If there are actions you can take to make your partner’s day more convenient and less stressful, then do them.

*disclaimer......try it  you may like it*

Sharon Patrice Simply Perfect Peace Events, Inc. You or your brand want coverage at an upcoming event? Getting married or having a social event and need assistance? Email Me For All Your Event Planning Needs.